How mumma got her groove back...
How to rediscover your style after baby.
As I looked into my wardrobe for what seemed to be the hundredth time that morning, I sat in a heap on the floor despondent by the clothes that glared back at me. I was seven months pregnant and my choices include a maxi dress that was now pilling from the multiple wears and forced stretching it had to endure and my faded kmart maternity jeans that constantly needed to be yanked in order to avoid one looking like a penguin (hey I had the belly to carry it off).
You see I had made a conscious decision to make do this pregnancy. Money was tight and I didn’t see the point of spending it on a wardrobe that was only to last me a few months. I figured once baby came I would be back to my pre style self in no time (shakes head at naive/dillusional pre baby self).
Well I am sure I don’t have to tell you that the first few months postpartum I had no chance of venturing into my pre baby clothes. I didn’t bounce back or even bounce near my old self. I was different, inside and out and I didn’t know how to dress this new reflection staring back at me. I remember on one such occasion we had ventured on a family lunch to the beach. I was three months postpartum and as I walked amongst the young, hip and stylish creatures I felt so daggy and frumpy in my tight maternity singlet and stretchy skirt, that I just wanted to go home and hide in the safety of my own space.
Becoming a mum is the most amazing, enlightening and downright hardest thing I have ever done. As someone who was passionate about style and fashion before kids, I sure didn’t enjoy it now. Things continued this way for some tome but months later I realised that something needed to change. Although many of my pre baby clothes fit, they didn’t fit my new lifestyle. Going to the shops (on the very rare occasion that I could) was overwhelming and I didn’t know where to begin. So I started my journey to reclaiming my style. Here is how I went about it, because there was no Styling Mumma to help a Mumma out.
Wardrobe Clear Out
Basically I was very ruthless during this phase. I threw out anything that was ill fitting, stained or beyond repair. I donated items that no longer fit or that I felt I wouldn’t wear again. I stored away items like work clothes and formal wear that I knew I would have no need for in the near future.
2. Accept that there are different clothes for different seasons (and i’m not talking about the weather).
Being a mumma to babies and toddlers is only a season of life. It seems like forever some days but before you know it they are off to school and the season changes. Accept the season for what it is. For so long I was frustrated that my pre baby clothes were not suitable for my current season of life. My dresses weren’t great for climbing playground equipment and my wedges didn’t help me keep up with my boisterous pair. Once I accepted this I started looking at how I could dress in a way that reflected my personal style but also allowed me to be comfortable and run around with my boys.
3. Rediscover your personal Style
The best way I found to do this was through Pinterest. I searched for outfits for the summer/winter season and started to pin items that appealed to me. I then started to look at which outfits would be suitable for my #mumlife and started to notice a pattern in the items that I was continuously choosing e.g. always a floral print or a striped t-shirt. I then looked at my wardrobe to see if I was able to recreate some of the outfits with items I already had.
4. Keep it Simple with a Capsule
I spent a lot of time researching capsules and trying to emulate the capsule of other mums that inspired me but at the end of the day the best capsule is the one that you will love and wear. Keep it simple and have a good range of basics as these are the foundation of your wardrobe and will help to create a versatile wardrobe. Find what suits your body type and embrace it. Have a few fun pieces or accessories as this stops you from getting bored with your outfits and can help create a variety of looks.
5. Find a style icon/inspiration
Instagram is a great resource to find other mums or other women that inspire you. I look at other mums, as often they understand the need to dress in a way that is mumma approved, but I also follow instagrammers that have a body type similar to my own as this allows me to see the types of shapes and silhouettes that may also work on me
6. Have fun
However you decide to rediscover your style just have fun with it. Don’t take it too seriously and instead try out some new styles and looks that maybe you haven’t thought to try before. What have you got to lose? If all else fails why not book in for a Personal Styling Session with Styling Mumma. We can help you with this entire process and more. You are worth it mumma!