Becoming a Mumma changed me…
Becoming a mum changed me in so many ways and in so many directions. When I had my first son I didn’t take to motherhood like I had anticipated. Just before turning 30 all I could think about was wanting my own children, my own family. So it was no surprise that on my 30th birthday there was no champagne celebration for me. My dream was coming true.
In October I gave birth to my first son. I felt elated, excited and so proud that not only had I survived labor (a huge fear of mine) but I had given birth to a healthy baby boy. All was well until the day three hormones came crashing down (this is also the day the hospital decides it’s a great time to go home …..hmmmm) and I didn’t want to leave. I was scared and anxious after a rough night of breastfeeding and sleeplessness. Who was going to look after this baby, when did he sleep, when did he feed, why would anyone let ME leave the hospital with a baby and did he come with instructions???
The months that followed were a blur but I recall the constant clock watching, timing feeds and the ache in the pit of my stomach that I was going to do something wrong. It didn’t help that all the books I was reading at the time were constantly reaffirming this fear (ignorance is bliss).
Fast forward to 2017 and after the sudden and unexpected death of my dad, I gave birth to my second son. I was more confident as a mother but sleep deprivation, grief and a super active toddler were next level mummahood. I won’t lie, the last two years have been a rollercoaster of emotions and I’m still not sure I’m doing any of it right but I do know I love my boys beyond what I thought capable (even though they drive me crazy like no other).
Motherhood has changed me. I am more selfless, caring, overwhelmed and crazy all at the same time. Having children had been a humbling experience. My boys come first and I often forget about me. There is less time to take care of the physical, emotional and spiritual needs I have, as the greater calling of motherhood beckons.
It is hard to parent two super active boys and with limited family support it can at times be overwhelming. They say it takes a village and no truer words have ever been spoken. Finding time to yourself is hard and feeling like yourself again after babies is even harder. Hence the birth of Styling Mumma.
Sometimes motherhood clouds our sense of identity and we lose who we are outside of it and this can be a dangerous place to stay. Taking care of ourselves and remembering and honouring who we are and who we want to be is so important, yet often mum guilt makes us feel as though these are selfish desires. Iv’e been there and some days I still am there.
I know one way I felt myself again after having babies was being able to wear clothes that I didn’t just feel frumpy in. That I wasn’t just wearing because they fit or they were comfortable. I struggled to find the balance with the clothes I loved pre babies and the practical reality that most days now I would spend at the park, grocery shopping, chasing after toddlers, breastfeeding and maintaining a household. It may seem superficial to some but like Judith Rasband so eloquently states:
The way we dress gives us the power to be our best selves. To set us up for the day with a positive mindset, feeling self confident and worthy and will affect the way we interact with our children, our loved ones and ourselves
Have you struggle knowing what to wear since becoming a mum or perhaps you are heading back to work after being out of the workplace for years and have no idea where to start? Styling Mumma can help. I am a certified Personal Stylist that specializes in working with mums who need help to rediscover who they are and feel confident and comfortable in their everyday.
Invest some time and energy into feeling like yourself again. Our services are fun, educational and affordable as we understand the transition to motherhood often means a transition of budget and we don’t want that to be a barrier for anyone.
To find out more about Styling Mumma and when we officially launch, leave your details below and we will keep you updated ~ opening April 2019.